Reah Guevarra’s Blog

I read an interesting post from someone that says, if you are not where you want to be in life right now, It’s All Your Fault. I want to comment there though, but I know my comment would be long, because I wanted to share my thoughts about this idea. So, I will just post it here.

I know it’s my fault.

Yesterday, I met a new friend, and as we were talking I shared to her that I like assessing someone’s personality, and even my personality. Though I wasn’t actively assessing other people and myself until I got to college.

That time, I was remembering the factors that had affected my personality, and also identified my responses on the factors that were there around me, at work, at school, at home, and with my friends. I reminisced how I got successful, how I got those achievements. And I would say, I was doing good, because I liked assessing my skills, why I was weak, why I didn’t get the grade I want, why didn’t I have enough friends, why I was not good in English, why I was afraid to recite but loved to speak in public….some questions like that I tried to answer myself. And by doing that I know it’s my fault if I would not change. So, what I did was I worked on improving the skills where I was weak, and worked out more on the things I knew I was really good at. And doing this I knew I would be successful.

I liked sharing this kind of thinking to my classmates. Some of them were not good in school, because they believed they didn’t have that capability to be successful, they believed they were not smart, they believed that they didn’t have skills so they were contented with their low grades. But I felt they wanted more, they just didn’t want to change. They just didn’t want to blame their selves but their parents, their friends, their old schools, their status in life, etc. They didn’t want to admit it’s their fault.

I pity them though because I found their potentials to succeed. I saw the skills that could be their strength. But I couldn’t change for them, all I could do was tell them words of encouragement and suggest ways to improve their current situation or even build their future. But those words would be meaningless if they would not want to undergo the difficult process of changing their attitude towards success.

My life right now, is not the successful life I really wanted. But this was the product of my choices before. I was not regretting about the choices I made before though, because I learned a lot from them. Choices like becoming less active in school activities while in college but worked part time and be involved in just one organization. I knew I was capable of doing more, but I made choices. That was my fault.

As I said, my life today is still not the successful life I wanted but I know I can achieve it if I will just choose to work on it, now.